Friday, April 8, 2011

A Life Without Romance

At a recent dinner at my Mother-In-Law's, the subject of conversation shifted to her neighbors. She filled Hubby and I in on all the latest goings-on in her neighborhood. My MIL mentioned that her next door neighbor had gone to visit his son while his Wife stayed at home. The Wife had told my MIL that she really missed her Hubby and that she was cuddling up to his pillow at night because it smelled like him. The Wife went on to say that she didn't think that she'd wash his pillow case until he came home (he was only going to be gone a week).

My MIL thought that the Wife was acting so "juvenile" and "silly". And that those were the actions of some high school girl. Not of a woman of 50+ years.
I mentioned that I thought it was romantic. She 'poo-pooed' that notion like I was nuts. Now, call me sentimental, but I think it's sweet. I've done that very thing - snuggle with Hubby's pillow when he's away.

I think it's great that at their age (she's 50+ and he's 60+)  there is still romance in the neighbor's marriage. And I feel bad for my MIL because she is missing out on so much - cuddling on the couch, the thrill you get in your heart when your Sweetheart looks at you across a room or just simply the joy of holding hands. (And yes, my MIL has a significant other in her Life)

Life without romance is like eating 'Smores without the toasted marshmallow. It may be good but it isn't all warm and mushy.

I like warm and mushy.


Robin Larkspur said...

Bravo, and three cheers for everyone who can be heartfelt and enthusiastically romantic no matter the age!!

Debra She Who Seeks said...

Some people are just plain mushless.

Danni said...

Aw, that's the sweetest thing I've heard in a while! I do the same thing when my hubby is away and hope to still be doing it at 50+. Life's less fun without some mush. :)

Anonymous said...

I am 50+ and my hubby 60+ and I still slip notes into his lunch bag and he still brings me pink roses. I still snuggle his pillow and he snuggles mine and I don't plan to ever stop. Hooray for mushyness!!!
Hugs and sparkles

~ Jayne ~ said...

"Absence makes the heart grow fonder."

Anonymous said...

I stretch out in the bed and watch whatever the hell I want on t.v. without arguing over Deadliest Catch or some stupid cop show. Hmmmm, hugging a pillow? The only thing I do with my husband's pillow is put it over his face when he pisses me off. Seriously...I really do love the shit out of that man. I just don't have a mushy bone in my body.

Jeanne said...

Dark Mother, You crack me up!! And thank you for reminding me that we all have our own way of loving someone. :0)

Wendy said...

Scent is so important to me and if I had a s.o. I'd do the same with a pillow and a shirt my beloved wore if he was gone. I guess there are those who are more practical in the world and those who are true romantics and sensualists at heart...Here's to love in all it's forms!